People say you can’t always be good at everything, that you need failures in your life to learn from those experiences. And they might be right. However, saying that doesn’t make the feeling of despair/anger/disappointment/worthlessness go away when you get the news. It can really have such a big impact on your self-esteem and can prevent you from trying new things because you’re afraid of failure or resigned to that outcome. Honestly, if I was in that situation, I don’t think anything would console me until I came to terms with it myself. What comforts me, besides harry potter and a pint of mint chocolate ice cream, is the fact that there are many more opportunities in the future. To go after those opportunities, preparation is essential!
One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation. – Arthur Ashe, professional tennis player
If you don’t get that job, call them back, ask them what you could have done better! If you know someone that got an A on an exam, ask them how they studied! I sometimes imagine life like a sort of training montage – try something out and if you don’t succeed, learn what you need to improve on and stick with it!
Are you going through anything like that currently? Feel free to contact me – I would love to talk.